By Edward White, Creator, Prejaculation
Having a negative mindset is one of the main reasons men experience early ejaculation problems. Your mind rules your body. When you experience sadness in your mind, your eyes shed tears. When your mind experience happiness, your face smiles and you walk with confidence. Therefore, when you carry a negative mindset during sex, you will experience premature ejaculation. Here is how it works.
Imagine this gentleman named John Smith, who often climax too early and too soon during intercourse. He is aware of his problem and quite conscious of the fact that he wishes to be able to last long enough in bed so he can fulfill both his own and his partner’s sexual desires. Even though John has been sexually active for several years, regardless the length of time – the point is, he is unhappy with his own sexual performance.
Barely before the foreplay of a sexual encounter, in the back of John’s mind, he is thinking “What if I come too soon just like last time?” Therefore, John’s sexual performance has already been tainted, either subconsciously or consciously, with negative thoughts. Now, both his mind and body are experience unnecessary pressures.
Before sex starts, John worries about foreplay. During foreplay John worries not being able to satisfy his partner. The thought of “Will I ejaculate too early?” or “Am I going to come too soon?” was circling inside John’s head.
Purge Negative Thoughts
The technique presented in this article focuses on keeping you in the present and getting rid of wrong thoughts so you will not think about your past bad sexual performance or what embarrassing sexual encounters you will likely experience again.
We humans operate ourselves on auto-pilot. Every day we worry about the tomorrows. At home we worry about work. At work we worry about home. Drinking at the bars we worry about not being able to pick up attractive souls to go home and have sex with. During sex we worry about not being able to perform well sexually.
The point is you must learn to relax your mind completely to be able to enjoy intercourse longer. Learn to live in the present, not in the past or future. If you think about what might or might not happen, such as climax too early, it will remove your focus from present, which is the progress of your current sexual encounter: you are climbing up on the stimulation scale. You will not recognize how close you are about to reach an orgasm and therefore will be unable to refrain yourself from ejaculating.
The goal of this particular technique is to help you to increase self-awareness and return you to present during the process of intercourse. This technique is used ruing the plateau stage of sexual intercourse, where maintaining self-control is difficult but very important. As sex is happening, every once in a while, ask yourself if you are relax enough or feeling tense and how close you are to an orgasm.
Asking the question inside your brain instead of just thinking them is important. You must say each word aloud in your head. A simple psychological principle is applied in the first question. The purpose is to relax you and return you to the current situation. After asking yourself if you are feeling tense, and if you are, you will notice your shoulders being tight and stomach tense. Automatically, your shoulders drop and mid-section relax.
The second question is something you must ask yourself throughout sex. It is important to identify yourself on the stimulation scale. This returns you to present. Remember to ask it aloud in your head.
About the author:
Edward White is the creator of “Prejaculation“, the Ultimate Orgasm and Ejaculation Control Manual. His book on premature ejaculation treatment helps men to get rid of their early ejaculation problems permanently so they can last longer in bed. If you wish to learn more on how you can build a supreme sexual stamina and endurance, please visit: Prejaculation.